The Girlfriend Stage

I Forgot to Figure This Out in Advance

I wasn’t sure what to expect, even though I used to be a teenage girlfriend. I think I just had my brain so laser-focused on raising three little boys that I didn’t consider what it would be like to raise three towering-over-me boys and their magically expanding universe of friends. I may have sort of forgotten that at some point, those friends would be girlfriends.

I really need a book on this, just so I don’t screw it up now that I’ve realized.

So. This is The First, and the gorgeous creature next to him is, of course, the girlfriend I forgot to figure out in advance. What’s weird is that while I’m not sure how to be the mom of a teenager with a girlfriend, she seems perfectly calm, rational, and — unlike me — she doesn’t seem to be casting about wildly in order to figure out what to do with herself. It may help that she has four older sisters.

Can I please get a retroactive older sister, here? It’s fairly urgent.

They have been together for a while now (6 months? a year? Shoot, I need to remember to ask), and I knew this but never said Oh, we need to have her over for… whatever it is that you have your son’s girlfriend over for. Dinner? How did I fail to do this For A Year? Augh.

Thankfully, the First figured that part out. He invited her to go to church with us, then to come home to watch a movie. When he asked me about it, I panicked.

“Do NOT make her watch one of your awful horror movies! ‘Saw 4’ is OUT.”

“Mom,” the First replied equably, “We’re not gonna watch Saw.”

“Okay,” I breathed in, and tried madly to figure out what the mom is supposed to say next. “Okay, and if you want to watch the movie with all of us we can all be down here in the den.”

I admit I’m an idiot.

And after I said it, I tried to fix it. “But of course if you want to watch it — just the two of you — up in your room, the rule is that the door stays open. And… and… don’t forget to let me take a picture when she comes over. I should have a picture.”

Ugh. I swear I’ll be smoother with the Ice, really I will. (Was the picture part too much?)

“No problem,” replied the First.

And there wasn’t. She came over. They watched a nice movie with the door open. Later he brought me the camera and patiently waited while I snapped a couple of photos.

And when I uploaded it to Facebook I even got a note from her. She likes it.

I’m doing fine, don’t you think?

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12 Responses to I Forgot to Figure This Out in Advance

  1. molly buckley November 19, 2009 at 2:08 pm #

    this is the most heartwarming post ever! I love it! you’re doing great. just don’t freak them out 😉 you were once young and in love.

    seriously, this is adorable. don’t do what my dad did the first time i brought a boy home, he showed the boy his chainsaw collection.

    not okay.
    .-= molly buckley´s last blog ..Did You Know? =-.

    • Lisa Creech Bledsoe November 19, 2009 at 3:46 pm #

      Oh no he di-int. THAT is the best awfullest story evar, Molly. So did you ever see that boyfriend again??

  2. Dana November 19, 2009 at 2:39 pm #

    GIRLFRIEND????? geez….I totally missed that part on Sunday.

    but I did notice his shirt said “playa”— Tom gave him an attaboy for that one!!

  3. Mark November 19, 2009 at 2:59 pm #

    I think you’re doing great 🙂

  4. Alicia Hemphill November 19, 2009 at 3:53 pm #

    You are precious. Monday…lunch…stalk, stalk, stalk…
    .-= Alicia Hemphill´s last blog ..Triangle Water Alliance =-.

  5. Tiffany Shockey November 20, 2009 at 10:48 am #

    Hahaha I think youre awesome Mrs. Lisa! So clearly youre doin a great job 🙂 and thank you for not showin me any chainsaws! Lol. Pictures arent overboard either 🙂 i love pictures! I guess thats a good thing if i wanna model! Lol. 🙂 I had fun sunday. And like i said on Facebook, I love your family! 😀

  6. Tiffany Shockey November 20, 2009 at 10:52 am #

    And its only been 3 months 🙂 almost 4. Lol. So youre not far behind 🙂

  7. lil sis November 20, 2009 at 12:36 pm #

    You are doing fine Lisa and you have an awesome kid that seems to have chosen well for himself.

  8. The First November 20, 2009 at 6:19 pm #

    Oh my word. Mom, I can honestly say I cannot BELIEVE you actually blogged on this… Ohhh man.

  9. Tiffany November 21, 2009 at 12:23 am #

    Ohhh C’mon Canaan…. it’s so cute! 🙂
    Whats wrong with it? 🙂
    Guys…. they just don’t get it do they? 😛 lol.

  10. Sine Botchen November 21, 2009 at 12:35 am #

    my advice to your kids… life in the public eye: get used to it. we were there, (and were) coached on what (and what not) to say in public.. soo glad to see “the first” commenting on various posts.. mad props!!
    .-= Sine Botchen´s last blog ..How hard is it to screw up sweet potatoes? =-.

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