I Once Missed a Dinner Party With Dead People

About three days after my grandfather died I had a dream.

I had been invited to this huge gathering and once I arrived I found myself wandering around an enormous banquet facility unable to recognize anyone. I knew I’d been invited, I just felt utterly out of my element in such a huge place, and although there were scads of people around, I was alone.

Finally my frustration won out, and I left the building by a back entrance.

But rather than finding parking lots filled with cars, I wandered out into a nearby field, and up into the bordering woods. I hiked for a while, looking back periodically to the building I’d vacated, wondering how I’d got myself into such an odd predicament.

Suddenly another hiker — a young man in his mid-twenties — climbed up to my vantage point and approached me as if we were friends.

“Why aren’t you at my dinner party, hon?” he asked, with a soft accent and manner that I immediately found familiar, although I couldn’t connect the face. He seemed to be talking to me as if he were an older man and I was his… his… granddaughter.

“Oh, wow, I didn’t recognize you,” I stuttered with some amazement. “You’re… young.”

It was my grandfather.

He laughed quietly and put his arm around me. “Well of course I am,” he agreed, as if it were the most natural thing in the world.

“I don’t want to go back,” I told him. “I didn’t recognize all those people. That place is too big. I just wanted to see you. I wanted to talk to you,” I told him.

And so he sat and talked softly with me there in the woods, missing his own banquet.

And that was the last time I ever saw my grandfather. But I am so grateful to him for seeking me out and spending time with me.

I have the sense that I could talk to him if I wanted to, but things seemed settled and comfortable between us now, like a familiar and well-loved quilt.

My paternal grandmother and grandfather in the late 1930’s or early 1940’s.

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2 Responses to I Once Missed a Dinner Party With Dead People

  1. lil sis January 28, 2012 at 4:37 pm #

    Lisa, the pic above is a picture of them just after they were married…..

    • Lisa Creech Bledsoe January 29, 2012 at 7:14 pm #

      The photo came off a metal button (or pin) that looked like it was made at a dance of some sort.

      Do you know what year they were married?

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