Tag: dancing

  • Mosh Pits and Group Hugs: The Ichthus 2011 Report

    Mosh Pits and Group Hugs: The Ichthus 2011 Report

    The First, age 16, just returned from the Ichthus Music Festival in Wilmore, KY.

    Over a hundred bands on more than seven stages, four days running. Approximately one bajillion crazy spectators, mostly unwashed (they do have cold showers there, and there was a trailer where you could pay $3 for a hot shower, but the First did not elect to spend his cash this way, preferring instead to tough it out and get hosed down regularly in the mosh pit; more on that later).

    Having decided to drive home in the middle of the night in order to beat thunderstorms (which relegated all festival-goers to their vans as a result of concert-wide ruling) and the end-of-Ichthus crush to leave, he and his group of friends arrived back at our church near-zombified, but happy.

    He grabbed his gear and slid into the backseat of my car with one of his brothers and sighed happily. “There’s so much room in here,” he commented, stretching out in my little compact. He made the trip up to KY in the back of a 15-passenger van loaded with 15 passengers and their luggage, and rode back in the cab of a small pick-up truck with three passengers (luggage piled in the flatbed).

    They all became quite close.

    I waited interestedly to see if the urgent need for sleep would win out over the desire to give the first festival report.

    “There were some incredible bands,” he summarized, reeling off the names of a dozen or more. “And the mosh action was phenomenal.”

    Ahh, the mosh pits.

    Two years ago I introduced the First and the Ice to mosh pits at Crüefest, their first major concert festival, telling them well in advance to keep away from the front of the stage, and carefully and repeatedly explaining what they should do if they found themselves caught up in a spontanteous mosh.

    I had worried about it so much, and then I was the one who got caught in one up at the Rev Theory stage. Fortunately, only my sunglasses got broken before I could get out.

    I was pleased to learn that moshing may have been somewhat institutionalized since then. Apparently at Ichthus, there are not only rules — you have to have pit hair to get in the pit (clever! disgusting!) — there were also clearly designated areas for moshing. There were also people keeping the area and the moshers hosed down. The First said that was because the lots were gravel, and the hoses were to keep down the dust. But it also cooled off the moshers quite nicely. Probably washed off any blood as well, hah.

    But most notably, the mosh pits had lifeguards! Burly dudes in orange bandannas, who were the first to snatch up people who fell and who also stood as a living barrier between the crown and the moshers.

    This I found truly heartening, no joke.

    I grew up in the era when moshing was invented, and you could get seriously injured in a mosh pit at at Bad Brains or Black Flag concert.

    By the way, I highly recommend the documentary American Hardcore for footage of the early punk rock scene — you can watch the entire film online for free at this link and here’s the trailer, also embedded below, which will give you a good idea of what I mean. The footage that starts about 57 seconds in is forever etched on my brain, and I have always been exceedingly cautious at concerts because of this sort of thing happening during my early concert-going years.

    So while my son related his various experiences in the mosh pits at the hardcore stage, I was incredibly grateful to hear him casually mentioning how well-monitored the pits were, and how, err, safe. Even when the bands themselves screamed for a Wall of Death (here’s a link where you can see the Wall of Death) the kids seemed to all take care of each other.

    I mean, as much as you can “take care” in a mad rush to slam yourself bodily against an oncoming tide of humanity.

    But here’s the interesting thing.

    He mentioned something I’d never heard of before: pre-moshing group hugs. Apparently there was a guy who regularly helped initiate the moshing, and the First said that sometimes, when the pits were full but not yet moving, this guy would gesture wildly to get everyone’s attention, and then throw himself madly at his fellow moshers in a ferocious hug.

    And as if by some predetermined agreement, an all-out, near violent (but nonetheless well-meant!) mass-moshpit hug would occur. In my mind it looks something like the exuberant dogpile you sometimes see in football and other sports, immediately after the team has pulled off an incredible win.

    And after the hug, full-scale moshing.

    I have no idea whether this was something unique to Ichthus (which is technically a Christian music festival) and/or this particular dude, or whether it’s a trend in hardcore mosh pits these days.

    Either way, I kind of like the idea, don’t you?

    Image by Rich Copley, posted on Copius Notes.

  • A Boxing Footwork Epiphany

    A Boxing Footwork Epiphany

    You know how sometimes — just once in a great while — everything you’ve worked so hard for suddenly comes together in a beautiful, quiet epiphany?

    I had one of the best boxing nights ever last night.

    The boxing team had finished warm-ups and we were slugging our way through six rounds of independent shadowboxing. Round after round of shadowboxing is kind of like practicing scales on the piano for an hour; there are times when you (and everyone who has to listen to you) think it will never, never, never end. The sameness becomes oppressive and you feel like you aren’t learning anything, only going through the motions of the old stuff until you’re half batty.

    But it pays off, all that practice.

    Last night I was in round four, or five, or seventy million of shadowboxing when I suddenly realized that I was dancing.

    I know, weird.

    But I promise you, I don’t have a graceful bone in my body. I have trouble not snickering when my coach tells me (with a patient sigh) to be “light on my feet,” balanced; perfectly poised between my lead and back foot, able to slip easily in any direction in that peculiar fashion native to the ring and essential to boxing.

    I lurch. I stumble, trudge, and and haul my body through space in the most ungainly fashion.

    But I didn’t last night. My brain was far, far away when suddenly the Ghost of Fabulousness whispered in my ear. Lightly, so as not to scare the shit out of me. You’re dancing.

    I considered this. There I was, balanced lightly between my lead and rear foot. On my toes. Sliding effortlessly, never overbalanced. That easy bobbing, swaying, dip and weave unfolding gracefully in every direction.

    For the first time in memory, I loathed the bell that would end it.

    It wasn’t a sparring night, so I didn’t get to test my work in the real boxing arena. But when the trainer put us on the heavy bags I was filled with power. I punched through. I moved with grace. I was unstoppable.

    Unstoppable.

    Thank God for these moments. They are the stuff of hope.

    Image by zarajay

  • Boxing Update: Curiosity Killed the Cat

    Ok, when I first posted about learning to box, I promised to keep you up to date. Those of you who see me regularly in real life have trouble getting me to Shut. Up. about it already. I even convinced one of my instructors to let me film him for 12seconds.tv (he’s a machine).

    Up until now I’ve been working on a heavy bag, the focus mitts (a little) and that’s about it. So yesterday I stepped in to talk to the woman who runs LA Boxing here in Cary, Bonnie “Queen B” Mann, professional boxer for 13 years and world championship title holder — the first woman from NC to take home the Big Belt. And it IS a Big mamma-jamma Belt. I actually stepped in to talk to Bonnie about coming with me to a networking event for which I was the keynote speaker; I planned to use boxing as an illustration for how to get started with social media.

    As we were chatting, I mentioned my intense curiosity about what it would be like to actually get in the ring and throw a punch at a real person.

    You know what they say about curiosity and the cat?

    Now it’s on, baby. I’m getting special dispensation to miss church on Sunday (gasp!) in order to show up for her class, after which she’s gonna gear up and put me in the ring with her. Understand, now — Bonnie will not be throwing any punches. I’m supposed to punch her. Never fear, there’s no actual chance that she will be injured in any way. Please worry about me, however.

    I was fine fine fine on the heavy bag. Fine, I tell you. Aaargh.

    It gets worse. Remember the speech about boxing and social media? Well, Bonnie DID come when I spoke at Cisco about social media, and she brought her giant championship belt, too. I politely introduced her, raved about boxing, told everyone I was having my debut with Bonnie in the ring on Sunday, ha ha, ended my happy little speech, and started Q & A.

    And a woman in the back raised her hand and asked if my bout with Bonnie was going to be broadcast on video. I may have reacted somewhat strongly with my “Absolutely not!” because I saw a dozen sneaky grins light up in the room.

    People, this is NOT something you want to see. If you’ve gone out clubbing with me, you know how dorky and ridiculous I look when I dance. It’s not like Elaine bad, but it’s bad. I’m probably at least that dorky looking when I box.

    I hope for your sake that it’s not bad enough to be viral.

  • First Dance

    The color is called Green Grind

    The Ice has just started public school and his first school dance was a week or so ago. In order to get ready, he got his ear pierced, then we had to shop for the perfect shade of green hair dye (Green Grind, by Color Fiend, available at Hot Topic).

    When I asked him if he was going to ask a girl to the dance, he sighed and explained his problem. Apparently there are (were — this was more than a week ago, and things move quickly in middle school land) FIVE girls who like him, and he didn’t want to risk offending any of them.

    “So what are you gonna do??” I inquired.
    “I’m just gonna go by myself and talk to all of them,” he told me.
    “Okay, but I don’t know if that will work. You may be in for a rough day after,” I said.

    But he seemed willing to take the risk.

    And it worked! They all came, they all loved his hair (don’t think they noticed his earring), and he talked with each of them. He even danced the Cupid Shuffle, he said, and it went great.

    I can’t tell you how relieved I feel.

  • Joy to share

    Take a moment out of your day for this guy. It gives me so many smiles to watch him dance his simple (kinda goofy) dance all over the world. I love seeing the interaction he attracts and the impromptu micro-communities he joins or creates. If I saw him, I would totally get out and dance my own little (really goofy) dance.
    Where the Hell is Matt? (2008) from Matthew Harding on Vimeo.

  • steve martin and gregory hines

    Ok, just this one more video and I swear I’ll stop. But it’s just sooooo goooood!! The Husband sent this link as a part of his “Make Her Think I’m the Greatest” program. (An awesome program, working quite well.)

  • elf them (and they will scrooge you)

    Ok, all your friends have done it, when are you just going to jump on the elfwagon (or scroogewagon) and be done with it?

    A few minutes to create it, a lifetime to live it down!

  • tragedy

    You know all those people whose well-insured million-dollar houses burned down in California? The Husband and I were commenting on the media people who kept referring to the loss of these houses as a “tragedy” (links too numerous to list here). NPR aired a long story about a writer guy who “braved the flames” of the last big SoCal fire and returned to his house in order to recover a nearly-finished novel from his computer; he also brought out a stuffed polar bear, which he keeps as a fond rememberance of his wacky escapade. The emphasis was on the party atmosphere, the thrill of evading the police barricades, and the silliness of what you will risk your life to save. The more the Husband and I discussed it, the more we believed the word “tragedy” to be inappropriate.

    So we turned to pop music.

    Me: Hey, didn’t the BeeGees write about tragedy?
    The Husband (immediately launching into song): Tragedy! When the da-da-da and the da-da-da it’s tragedy!
    Me: I only know the one lyric too. I have to sing “watermelon watermelon,” like I used to for In-A-Gadda-Da-Vida. We should find out what Barry and the guys have to say. It could be important.
    The Husband (returning triumphant from a quick foray onto LyricsFreak.com): I have the treasure! Gimme a beat:

    Tragedy / When the feeling’s gone and you can’t go on / It’s tragedy
    When the morning cries and you don’t know why
    It’s hard to bear / With no one to love you you’re goin’ nowhere

    Tragedy / When you lose control and you got no soul / It’s tragedy
    When the morning cries and you don’t know why
    It’s hard to bear / With no one to love you you’re goin’ nowhere

    Me: Mystery solved. Wow, I really feel…cleansed.
    The Husband: Edifiying, isn’t it?

    Did you know that “tragedy” was the word I misspelled (tradgedy) in the high school spelling bee? That was the fateful word that cost me first place. It was so…sad.

  • boyfriend sweater

    I may have outdone myself. This is one of the best mixtapes I’ve made so far. Comforting, with boyfriend-scented memories and a slow dance or two. Eminently listenable, it’s the perfect mix of blues, folk, pop, indie, and rock-n-roll. A little bit of cheery whistling, some harmonica, even some faux snake rattles (REO, in homage to the 8-track that was permanently jacked into the Husband’s mom’s LeBaron, in which we had our first date. Hooray for bench seats!). The only thing this mix doesn’t have is more cowbell. And I can live with that.

    Beloved / Minnie Driver
    Banana Pancakes / Jack Johnson
    Ruby / Utah Carol
    Darlin’ Do Not Fear / Brett Dennen
    I Was Meant for the Stage / The Decemberists
    F-Stop Blues / Jack Johnson
    I’ll Be Your Baby Tonight / Bob Dylan
    Frosty / Albert Collins
    Home / Daughtry
    Keep On Loving You / REO Speedwagon

  • anniversary mixtaping to do!!

    Working on the 20th Anniversary Rock n Roll Mixtape, kinda have a “twos” theme goin’ on for obvious reasons. This has to be a playlist that incites one to kick off the chandelier shoes (or male equivalent) and dance like an idiot while singing at the top of one’s lungs and maniacally playing air drums. And there have to be a couple of breaks for breathing (or slow dancing, anniversary kissing, and other PDA’s). Plus at least one (woops, make that two) guilty pleasure songs. I’m not necessarily going for content here, just atmosphere. It’s what we’ll play in the car on the way to our big night out, and later cruising on the Blue Ridge Parkway before we hike Mt. Mitchell. Here’s what I have so far:

    1. Wolfmother, “Love Train” and “Woman”
    2. Red Hot Chili Peppers, “The Zephyr Song” and “Hump de Bump”
    3. The Killers, “Mr. Brightside” and “When You Were Young”
    4. Live, “Heaven” and ?????

    And obviously, I need to choose something from Cake… I’ll keep working.